Freshman year is unlike any other. You’re no longer under your parents roof, you no longer have their direction. You have to make decisions for yourself. I’ve been looking back on the semester and these are some things that freshman year has taught me so far.
You grow up a lot. People are constantly changing around you. People are figuring out who they really are and college is a great time for that. People will begin to discover their true potential and their true self. Friendships will fade simply because people are becoming true to themselves and simply because you no longer are the same people you were in high school. Some grow up faster than others and others simple don’t grow up. People you were friends with won’t grow up and they won’t mature. Those people will stay the same people they were in high school.
Friendships fade. You quickly realize that you are no longer friends with someone that you were friends with everyday. You’ll learn that you were only friends with them because you saw them everyday at school. When going to college, you realize that you weren’t actually that similar to that person and you didn’t actaully have that much in common. Luckily for me, a lot of this happened the summer before Freshman year and I’m so thankful it happened.
You’ll cry a lot. You’ll cry because you miss your dog (I do this so often, crying is okay). You’ll cry because you miss your mom, or your sister, or brother. You’ll cry for no reason. You cry because randomly you’ll miss how things were.
You’ll feel left out. You’ll feel left out when your family goes on vacation without you. You’ll feel left out when you’re in a group message with your family and they are talking about what they want for dinner. You’ll feel left out knowing they are getting a home cooked meal and you’re stuck eating dining hall food. You’ll feel left out when you see your friends from home making new friends.
You’ll eat more than you want to. You’ll eat Taco Bell at 2 in the morning because its so conveniently placed next to your favorite fraternity. You’ll eat Taco Bell because it’s cheap and it’s decent. You’ll eat because you’re bored and don’t have class from 8-3 everyday. You’ll eat when your drunk (and then you’ll eat more Taco Bell). You’ll eat because your friends are hungry, even when you’re not hungry. You’ll go to restaurants and eat just because your friends were craving the food. You’ll eat more because Jimmy Johns delivers (except when they decide to not be freaky fast one night and that’s just annoying). You’ll also eat a lot of chipotle. You will miss avocados though because you don’t have them on hand as easily (god bless avocados). You’ll eat more because literally any kind of food you want can and will be delivered to you.
You’ll make new friends. You’ll make new friends everywhere you go. I made a friend during sorority recruitment and I became friends with her friends. Those same girls and I made friends at Taco bell. You’ll make friends in your classes. Literally everywhere you go, you have the opportunity to make new friends.
You’ll become independent. You’ll get used to doing your own laundry. You’ll forget what it’s like to have someone there to wake you up if you don’t hear your alarm go off 3 times (it sucks when you really need it after a fire drill at 4am and you don’t go to bed until 4:30 and have to be up in 3 hours). You’ll rely less on your parents and more on yourself. You’ll become your own best friend because those first few weeks are awkward and you’ll have no friends. You’ll appreciate your friends though (expect when your social life starts to dominate your school life and you wish you didn’t make those friends…only kidding). You’ll appreciate the things you buy with your own money. You’ll appreciate everything.
You’ll love college. College is fun. Yes, it is hard. Yes, it is stressful but it’s fun. College is a learning experience for everybody whether it’s learning to like dorm food, which will never happen. Whether it’s living on your own for the first time or whether it’s just actually doing homework for the first time, you’ll still love college. You’ll love the freedom. You’ll love that there is always something going on. You’ll love the friends you make.